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Do you remember when you first met? Remember how much effort you would put into planning the perfect evening or the perfect outfit? Remember your stomach full of butterflies when you went to a restaurant? Who could even eat. If you've been together for two years and miss feeling this way - know that it's possible. Not only is it possible, if you follow one action once a week, you can preserve the butterflies forever.
Maybe they won't be appetite suppressants like at first, but even one or two butterflies are better than a wasteland for your emotional and sexual life, right? So pay attention. The first thing that needs to be clear is that it wasn't the relationship that extinguished your spark, but life itself in general. Specifically, it's the fact that you stopped dating each other.
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sexologist Michaela Southby and relationship expert Emma Paul talk about the intimacy that has disappeared from her Slowly, and firmly: "Marriage is not a spark killer," she told Kidspot. "When we stop going out with each other, we stop taking time for ourselves and just flow with the swings of life. "Make time for each other," Michael recommended, "just like you make sure to go to the gym. You will go to the gym even if you are tired, but you will easily cancel the date with your partner. It's bad".
"It is very important that you set the weekly high as a goal, just like the gym, because this date is even more important. We must prioritize intimacy so that it does not spoil - steal kisses, send sexy messages, sit hugging while watching TV. Hold hands, leave phones at home While walking with the dog and just talking.
"Another myth is that intimacy equals sex, when in fact, it develops into different forms of connection beyond just physicality" she clarifies "Intimacy in marriage can be created with sharing, curiosity and many other small things that have nothing to do with sex, although / that they will eventually affect him, as well as the absence of these things. Intimacy can fade in any relationship unless it is addressed. A deep emotional connection will sustain you through the highs and lows."
Whatever you think, the relationship is not past the dating stage - long-term relationships just need more attention "In the beginning, intimacy may be about discovery and excitement, while over time, it's about a deep connection More, shared memories, even vulnerability. Commitment doesn't mean the excitement goes away. The weekly date must be set, just like you set a time for other meetings. If you don't, life will just get in the way."